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3 Reasons to Consider Private Wedding Vows

Exchanging your wedding vows is the most intimate moment of your wedding day! Jordin and Taylor thought to keep their vows as personal as possible by sharing their vows privately after I captured their First Look. I not only captured the First Look of their wedding day where they were able to share an unforgettable moment before meeting their guests, I was able to capture the intimacy of their private wedding vows and all the emotions they felt from baring their hearts to each other. While wedding ceremonies traditionally prompt a couple to share their vows before claiming “I do” in front of their guests, there are a few compelling motives to keep your sweet and meaningful words just between you and your love.

Wedding Vow Anxiety

Why did the bride and groom choose to keep their wedding vows private? Taylor opened up to me with, “We attended a friends wedding and they both had a hard time getting through their vows and we knew it would be even worse for us because we hate public speaking.”

We love a self aware bride! Your wedding day is all about YOU; and Taylor and Jordin needed no other convincing to decide to exchange their promises intimately, just the two of them. And it turned out it was totally the right move for them, “For me, it really calmed my nerves down and made the rest of the day much easier.”

A Deeper Connection with a Private Moment

Which brings me to my next point: exchanging vows, just the two of you, creates a moment for you to get deeper with your true feelings for each other. Your vows sum up your dreams and declare your promises to each other. Sharing them privately gives you the advantage of baring your heart in ways you might not if your pastor and mother-in-law are in earshot. Taylor added “I think being one on one for those moments took away the craziness of the day and reminded us why we were there.” Case in point. Your vows are the entire reason you’re getting married. This is the most intimate moment of your day so make it the most heartfelt! You don’t need to censor your love for your great aunt and with a private exchange, you don’t have to sweat the secondhand embarrassment if you want to take your vows there.

Breaking With Tradition

The favorable thing about exchanging vows privately is that it doesn’t have to break with tradition! You can have your cake and eat it, too. Why? Because you can exchange private vows before the wedding day (a la Duke and Duchess of Sussex), after your wedding day, or by hand written letter—and still promise to love and cherish, in good times and in bad, in sickness and in health… and proclaim “I do!” in front of your people at your ceremony!

For Jordin and Taylor, “We both were so happy that we did the private vows. The private vows and first look were both our favorite part of the day.” So save yourself the stress and create your own unforgettable moments on your day with a private vow ceremony.